One thing I miss in Mexico is seeing women being bold and boisterous. People, as a whole are reserved in Mexico,* but one advertisement shocked me to my feminist soul. The ad depicts a teen who’s peers are looking at her and her body language shows that she is painfully embarrassed by this attention. She is dressed well, looks nice, and has done nothing wrong — in other word’s there is nothing to be embarrassed about. The caption underneath says something that roughly translates to “typical girl.” If I had a BB gun I would have shot the sign! I thought, “What a terrible message to give to young women!”
Shouldn’t we be teaching young women around the world to be confident? The idea of a nation where approximately fifty percent of the population has been brainwashed into being shy — and into being shy about who they are — is terrifying.
American and Canadian tourists are surprised at how easily Mexican vendors and other locals can pick them out when they come. They assume that their touristy attire and pale skin is the major tip off — and it is. Still, there is more to it than that. There are plenty of pale-skinned Mexicans, but we “locals” can still tell that they aren’t tourists. I haven’t asked my friends what signs they look for in a person to tell where they are from, but I look at the way they walk — especially if the person is a woman. North American women often stride. Even if they are wondering aimlessly, they let their bodies move more, they don’t act shy, and finally, they slouch more. Most Mexican women walk as if someone important is looking at them; as if that someone would judge them for hurrying, acting important or having a hair out of place. A few Mexican women dress in figure-showing clothes and they want their sex appeal to be noticed so they through their shoulders back and let their hips wag. Still, that’s not the same athletic, ground-eating walk that North American women employ.
Apparently running in the street is taboo. My Mexican husband is embarrassed if I run in the street. If I jog to clear an intersection or sprint to catch the bus he tells me, “I don’t like to see you running in the street. Just walk.”
I’m actually glad I’ve been in Mexico and been exposed to how Mexicans walk since they are more graceful. My posture has greatly benefited. My family has commented on how I look good and walk well. (Actually, being a savvy expatriate, I have thought about my values and have continued to walk quickly and with confidence — I’m keeping that part of my cultural heritage and am adding on the part of having good posture.)
Still, having good posture and being confident can go hand in hand (and many of our slouchy North American young people would benefit from it too). I want Mexican women’s voices to be heard, not self-muffled. I don’t think I’d want to raise a daughter in Mexico! Society would be telling her to look cute, walk slowly, and keep quiet.
*Note: States such as Monterrey are famous for having a more bold culture, but I haven’t had a chance to live there. Does anyone out there have any experiences in “more boisterous” states in Mexico that they can share? [You can use the comments form below to put up your observations.]